Genuinity // Reflections Post-Novel Release// Part 4
Triumphs and trials will reveal who is in your corner.
A real test of the friendships around you is marked by who is still standing alongside you during the bad times, but also when you rise and succeed. Insecure friends will drift away when you shine. In the same breath, I've learned to be wary of those who come out of the woodwork as good things continue to happen for me.
My PR mentor warned me of a harsh reality last year --I thought maybe I'd be an exception, but it's unfortunately proved correct. The moment you become successful and "hometown famous" everybody starts popping out of the shadows, attempting to ride your coat tails, acting like they were once your all-star BFF. The weeks post-book release I had so many people post across my social channels and getting in touch with me, reminiscent of childhood memories or our adolescent days and how they knew me.
OH HELLO, beeyotch-who-would-laugh-at-my-frizzy-hair-and-thunder-thighs during our teen years. Now you're back in my life, claiming to be my classmate? Oh, you were my classmate, alright. The worst kind of classmate. **Squarespace doesn't allow for emojis, but imagine me inserting the stink eye one right here.**
I have lost count over the ex-boyfriends and ex-flings that have slid into my DMs since this book launched. I have lost count of the times that friends I have not heard from in 5, 10, 15 years are suddenly popping up saying, "Hey, I knew you." "I want to write a book. Help me." "What have you been up to?"
Oh hey there.
Where have you been since our last superficial interaction in the grocery store? Where were you when my family entered our darkest days with my brother's accident? Where have you been when I was dealing with many of the issues that even inspired such a book?
I've learned to decipher between friend and foe; I've learned to know the difference between genuinity and opportunism. This is something anyone who desires and obtains success needs to learn how to filter through. Unfortunately, this has left me with fewer friends and more strangers than anything. But you know what I'm learning? Quality always beat the hell out of quantity. Especially with those whom you allow into your inner circle.
In short, the last three months have been full of highs and lows, ups and downs, pain and publicity, and I am so thankful for each moment. It has helped me grow and step into the next phase of what's next for me and my life, my journey and my career.